Saturday, March 20, 2021

Let Go of Grudges and Expectations

 

   Jane Ault- (Referencing 1 Samuel 1) Since Hannah was as human as we are, she may well have held a grudge against Peninnah for the meanness handed down to her over the years. What did the relationship between these two women look like after Hannah returned from her visit to the temple?

   The Bible doesn't tell us. But it does say that Hannah was no longer sad and that she began to eat. This indicates that she felt loved. I believe that hope, faith, and the comfort she received from God gave her strength to let go of any grudges she was carrying. (Photo by Raychan on Unsplash)

    Knowing that we are loved gives us the courage to let go of our bitterness. During the month I wrote this chapter, I decided to focus on the topic of love. One of my goals was to memorize the 13th chapter of the book of First Corinthians—a beautiful description of love. 

   Among the characteristics of love that are listed is this one: "It [love] is not irritable or resentful." I read that Scripture several times before I understood that in love there is no resentment—none at all. How would I feel if I did not carry any resentment in Life? No resentment either toward myself or others? I would be free of a great weight. I would have energy to spare. Deeply desiring this freedom, I started to cry.

   Then, as I continued searching the Scripture, I found these other two statements: "The love of Christ controls us" (2 Corinthians 5:14 NCV) and "God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting peoples' sins against them" (2 Corinthians 5:19 NIV). All of my life I've resisted the idea of being controlled by anything or anybody; yet, resentment has controlled many of my days. It does count people's sins against them.

   Being controlled by resentment is slavery. Being controlled by love is freedom. Being controlled by love happens when we submit our hearts and lives to God. This involves trust. For Ann Voskamp, developing a lifestyle of gratitude produced an unexpected benefit—increased trust in God. She says; 

   "Count blessings and discover Who can be counted on . . . Trust is the bridge from yesterday to tomorrow, built with planks of thanks. Remembering frames up gratitude. Gratitude lays out the planks of trust. I can walk the planks—from known to unknown—and know: He holds." [Ann Morgan Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2010, pp. 151-152].

   What we remember about any given situation is a matter of choice. If we believe God loves us and that he is able to bring good out of every situation (the promise of Romans 8:28), we will trust him and experience joy. But if, in our minds, we choose to remember and think about pain and hardships, we will prolong our bondage to resentment.

   About a year ago, I was scheduled to have cataract surgery. When I went for my pre-op appointment and saw a video describing the procedures (including possible complications) I panicked and cancelled my surgery. What caused me to make that decision? I remembered a what-was-supposed-to-be ambulatory surgery nine months earlier in which I experience unusual complications.

   These are the things about that situation that I choose to remember: my physician's diagnostic failure, hospitalization that lasted for almost three weeks, unexpected and unnecessary physical pain, a medication overdose, a three hour ambulance transfer to another hospital, a corrective surgery, and a very long recovery.

{Taken from Jane's book, EMOTIONAL FREEDOM, The Choices We Must Make, pp. 104-106, used by permission]

Let's pray-

   "Dear Savior, you made an offer of rest that we often refuse. We press on. We try to fix it in our own power. We hide or isolate or pretend like it’s all okay. The truth is we're exhausted, and tired of doing this on our own and if you are offering deep-into-my-spiritual-bones rest, we are holding up our hearts, our thoughts, and our lives to you to receive that gift. Thank you for not only carrying our burdens but making room on the inside of us for joy and peace, and the ability to take a deep breath.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen."

[Adapted from prayer by Suzanne Eller]


 
456-460 one-line Scriptures for those of you who want to learn some more verses this week- or to review them from when they were first posted- 

456-  Ps. 119:140 "Thy word is very pure; therefore thy servant loveth it."

457- Ps. 9:9 "The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble."

458- Jer. 23:23 "Am I a God at hand, saith the LORD, and not a God afar off?"

459- Ps. 91:5 "Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day."

460- Romans 12:12 "Rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer."  

        
Quotes for today-

~ Dave Roberson Ministries- "As we continue in fellowship with God—not by the requirements of condemnation but simply because we are choosing to exercise our faith to spend time with Him—we know that by getting to know Him and growing in Him, we will see many victories with Him. And as we continue, the victories will begin to come more easily as we seek to know Him more through our times of fellowship with Him."

~ Robert Browning- "Let go of selfish ambition, frustration, hurts and regrets. God wants you to be fully alive, intact, free from the decay of unforgiveness, bitterness and grief. When you love God with your entire being and walk in love with your fellowman, the evil one cannot touch you. “Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.” 


Words from God the Father

                                                       I Reach for You to Come

 "Know: Your Father loves you. And know: This love is unchanging and does not originate in you—Love is who I am. My love is extended to you, and I will not pull back My hand. I reach for you to come. Come into the knowledge of who I am through the fellowship of My Spirit and see things from where I stand."

1 John 4:10 "In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins."


Words of wisdom-

There will be times when we believe we’re insignificant, totally struggling in our self-worth. Will we listen to the internal voice telling us that we’re not good enough, fragile and weak? The truth is, that as children of God, we are infinitely valuable to Him. We are always strong enough in Christ Jesus.


Today's guest post-


 Marcellus George- "Grace is sometimes difficult to give.

I once talked with a college-student friend who complained about his disappointment with a few people who had hurt him. He found it difficult to forgive them and move on. In fact, he harbored bitterness."


 

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#107 Your Prayer Can be an Eternal Investment
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