#111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors

C. Peter Wagner tells
us: For some, female 
intercessors for male 
leaders works well.

I have mentioned that
I believe two of Paul's
intercessors were Euodia
and Syntyche, both women.

#12  Paul's Prayer Partners: Enodia and Syntyche

Having somewhat less evidence, I nevertheless suspect, as I have mentioned earlier, that Mary, the mother of John Mark, could have been one of Peter's closest intercessors.

To cause physical dependency, the enemy uses lust, inappropriate language and inappropriate contact.

In order to avoid any of this, common sense is needed. For one thing, the pastor mush have a solid marriage as a prerequisite for relating to an I-1 intercessor of the opposite sex.

There must be an open relationship between the spouses as well. The danger of physical indiscretion should be mutually recognized and assiduously avoided.

Cindy Jacobs says, 

   'Do not meet with a member of the opposite sex for prayer without someone else being present.'

I go so far as to say the less one-on-one contact there is between a leader and a member of the opposite sex in general the better.

Having breakfast or lunch or driving from one place to another with a female intercessor is not recommended.

I was concerned, when I developed these rules for myself years ago, that I might be overly old-fashioned. 


But I was heartened 
by my friend Pastor 
Rick Warren of Saddleback 
valley Community church.


He is a megachurch pastor in his 30's who has never been accused of being 'old-fashioned.'

After the Jimmy Swaggart scandal broke, he laid down for his staff  'Saddleback's Ten Commandments.'

  1. Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home.
  2. Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the 
      office.
  3. Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than 
      once without that person's mate.
  4. Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex.
  5. Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or 
      show affection that could be questioned.
  6. Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with 
      the opposite sex in counseling.
  7. Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an 
       attender of the opposite six.
  8. Thou shalt be careful in answering cards and letters 
       from the opposite sex.
  9. Thou shalt make your secretary your protective ally.
10. Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff 
       members.

I have written out Rick Warren's rules in full because I think following them could avoid many of the problems we are having in the ministry today.

I agree with them and I follow them myself. Not only do I want to avoid pitfalls such as physical dependence, I also want to avoid the appearance of evil.

Recognize the Role of the intercessor
Both the leader and the intercessor should recognize that the role of the intercessor is:

• A close personal relationship, but not marriage
• A Strong influence in the life of the leader, but not manipulation or control
• Partnership in ministry, but not ownership of ministry."

#111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors, in the 
series taken from C. Peter Wagner’s book, PRAYER 
SHIELD, How to intercede for pastors, Christian leaders 
and others on the spiritual frontlines. (pgs. 193-195) 
by Regal Books

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Let’s pray:

   Father, I see that I need
to be more mindful of what
I do, and to remember that
it will have effect on others
around me.

   May my actions and word
be all You want them to be.

   Help me to always protect the folks I am with, to not allow any actions offend them, or anyone observing my conduct.

   I choose to maintain clean hands and a pure heart at all times.

   I pray that my behavior pleases You, dear Jesus. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse:  Neh. 5:9 "Also I said, It is not good that ye do: ought ye not to walk in the fear of our God because of the reproach of the heathen our enemies?"

Today’s quote: Bill Crowder – “It is only from God that we can receive the grace of forgiveness when our choices have produced painful regrets. And only in Him do we find the wisdom to make better choices.”

Some thoughts today: Jesus always saw a need as an opportunity. He still does! He sees your need, as well as those around you. You have a privilege of allowing Him to use you to minister to others. As He is spirit, He needs flesh to touch someone...

- God needs ordinary gifts to multiply. What's in your 
hand? Give it to Him. He'll use your "something" to do 
miracles. 1 Kings 17:8-16 (widow with flour and oil, 
struggling to survive, but shared, and God provided!)

- We do the natural, and God does the supernatural. Impact will be beyond your imagination. We look back and see what God has done because of our sacrifices.

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C. Peter Wagner

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Jo Huddleson

24th- Sunday's post:  Broken But Beautiful
Cindy Hess Kasper

24th- evening's post:  Too Young or Too Old?
Michael Brooks

A popular post: The Hidden Door of Temptation Dave Branon tells us, "No matter what the temptation, we are all vulnerable. It wasn't the first time it happened in sports, and it certainly won't be the last." 

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#110 Physical Dependency

C. Peter Wagner has said,
"I have said enough about
immorality in the ministry
to give us the impression it
has become one of Satan's
most effective tools in
crippling the church in our
day and age.

It should come as no surprise to suggest that Satan would like to destroy relationships between pastors and intercessors through an inappropriate physical contact.

Most cases of pastoral indiscretion have been sparked in the counseling relationship, contacts with staff members taking second place.

I have not as yet heard of immoral physical relationships between pastors and intercessors, although I do know of one pastor's I1 intercessor running off with the pastor's father.

Inappropriate contact is a constant danger that needs to be understood and avoided. 

Research shows that the great majority of pastors are male and great majority of intercessors are female. This situation is not likely to change in the near future.

To avoid the danger of wrong contacts totally, some pastors such as John Maxwell only relate to male prayer partners.

This is not that either John or his wife, Margaret, have any kind of excessive phobia about John's relating to women in the general course of his pastoral ministry. He relates as well as any.

{John relates His stronger strengths are to teach men, so he teaches them to pray for him and his ministry.}

Furthermore, John has rightly observed that in the average congregation women pray much more than men.

In his congregation he wants as many men praying as women, so he directs his attention toward motivating and training men to pray.

John Maxwell does not teach that all pastors should have the same policy he has, but it goes without saying, many pastors should follow his example. Or they should recruit family members as intercessors."

#110 Physical Dependency,

in the series taken from C. Peter 

Wagner’s book, PRAYER SHIELD, 

How to intercede for pastors,

Christian leaders and others 

on the spiritual  frontlines.
(pgs. 192-193) by Regal Books

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Let’s pray: 

   Father, when I pray for

my pastor(s) and leaders, may

I remember that they are human,

like me, and to make sure I

don't do anything to cause

anyone to speak against my

behavior, or theirs.

   I understand that I'm

responsible to always to be

careful and respectful, and to make sure I am appropriately handling myself in their presence.

   I want to be an excellent prayer partner for my leaders, and I ask that You help me be one who knows what You require.

   In the Name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse: Is. 29:24 "They also that erred in spirit shall come to understanding, and they that murmured shall learn doctrine."

Today’s quote: Dennis Fisher – “Because of Jesus’ death and resurrection, we can now approach God without fear. God’s penalty for sin has been satisfied, and we are invited into God’s presence: 'Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace” Heb. 4:16.

Our thought today: The glory of God is the love of God flowing through us. This love of God isn't stopped by imperfection. Can we love imperfect people in our churches? Remember, we weren't "perfect" when God arrested our thinking, and revealed His love to us!

   What to do every day when you wake up…

  (shared by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from the

  sermon series on Ephesians by Richard Sinclair.

  Listen to the messages on  http://www.cfconline.org/

 “Wake up and remind yourself that His intended purpose was to adopt you as His own in Jesus Christ!

Wake up and remind yourself that you have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”

16th- Saturday’s post:  My Cooking Will be Grand!

Debbie McEwen

17th- Sunday's post:  I Didn't Quit! 

James Cagle

17th- evening's post:  Rock Bottom

Diana Derringer

19th- Tuesday's post:  #111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors  C. Peter Wagner {I'll have only one more 

post from his book, PRAYER SHIELD}

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FREE LIVING   Dave 

Branon  shares with us, 

"Does it bother you to 

see how much attention 

is paid in today’s culture 

to people who stand for 

all the wrong things? 

Perhaps it is entertainment stars who get the headlines 

while espousing immoral philosophies in their music, 

movies, or programs." 

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My Cooking Will Be Grand

My Cooking Will Be Grand

Debbie McEwen 

Will we eat in heaven?

I'd like to think we might

I'd love to share a meal

With everyone in sight.

I'd cook my favorite dishes

And fix them oh so well

To please all of my family

And everyone else as well.

Heaven's such a perfect place

With joyful prayers and song

That I would like to add

Happy fuel for everyone.

I would humbly offer

My cooking to my God

I'd like to think if I do my best

My efforts He would laud.

I've never been a perfect cook

Or perfect anything

But I believe that God is pleased

When we do our best for Him.

So I guess that I must practice

To be the best I can

So when I go to heaven

My cooking will be grand.

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Let’s pray:

   Father, I ask that You guide my efforts to serve You and others by with my talents.
   The abilities come from You, and I'll do my best to work with them for the Kingdom.
   We know You have good plans for us, and we thank You for them.
   Have Your way in my life, Lord. Help me be sensitive to what You're showing me to do for others.
   I'll look to Your enablement in my being a blessing. In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse: Ps. 32:8 "I Will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.."

Today’s quote:  Our Daily Bread: “Lord, help me remember that there are no small places or small people. All are precious in Your sight. May I see the value of my work and cherish it as You do. Anyone doing God’s work in God’s way is important in His sight." 7/20/14

Some thoughts today: Learn your lessons well, so you can help others in the things of God.

- God approves of you! He has affirmed you. He is pleased in what you've done. Do you have many choices to chose from? God will help you, if you'll let Him.

          What to do every day when you wake up…

          by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from the

  sermon series on Ephesians by Richard Sinclair.

  Listen to the messages on  http://www.cfconline.org/

 “Wake up and remind yourself that you have a part to play in the unfolding plan of God. That you are called to serve Him and to impact the lives of people around you through prayer, giving, serving, and sowing. And that nothing and no one can stop you from walking out His kingdom will for your life.
   Wake up and remind yourself that your labor in the Lord matters – that He sees your love, your sacrifice, and your patience toward all men, and especially toward the saints, and that He will not forget your work and labor of love.”

17th- Sunday’s post:  I Didn't Quit!
James Cagle

17th- evening's post:  Rock Bottom
Diana Derringer

19th- Tuesday's post:  #111  Male Leaders and Female Intercessors C. Peter Wagner

21st- Thursday's post:  #112  Go and Do It!
C. Peter Wagner  (last message from PRAYER SHIELD)

A popular post:  Becoming More Fruitful Gwen Smith shares with us, "On a family visit to the beach, our room had a balcony that overlooked the swimming pool. 

I sat on the balcony one morning and watched as a maintenance man for the resort approached a palm tree and pulled a brown, life-less branch from under the green leaves. 

Oddly, before he pulled the dead branch, I hadn’t even noticed it was there. After he pulled it, however, I noticed that the palm tree looked fresh and vibrant. Healthy. The pruning made such a difference!"

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I Didn't Quit!

I Didn’t Quit  by  James Cagle

I didn’t quit

When my cross became so heavy

And there were no stars in the sky

When my path was rough and rocky

And God gave no answer to my question "Why?"

I didn’t quit

When the winds ripped my sails to shreds

And my ship was battered upon the sea

When all looked hopeless in the storm

But in spite of it all I chose to believe.

I didn’t quit

When my fam’ly and friends forsook me

And I was suddenly all alone

When my path got steep and thorny

And tomorrow wasn’t fore-shown.

I didn’t quit

When the one avowed to me for life

Released my hand and walked away.

When promises made were not kept

And the enemy mocked me along life’s way.

I didn’t quit

When all the lies began to be told

And I was wrongfully defamed

When my name became a by-word

And my enemies were never named.

I didn’t quit

When I was introduced to cancer

And my life spun out of control

And it seemed I was losing the battle

And fear and pain commanded my soul.

I didn’t quit

When I lost ev’rything that I held dear

And I no longer felt like living

When all I had slipped through my fingers

And I felt my mind start darkening.

I didn’t quit

When my heart fin’ly broke in two

And up ahead the way looked so hard

And I knew if I rose again tomorrow

My pain and sorrow I must disregard.

I didn’t quit

While in the furnace of affliction

For I knew the fiery trial refined me

That pain and sorrow are the tools

God uses to work a change in me.

I didn’t quit

Because others were watching me

And Jesus Christ was counting on me

And I knew I could make a difference

That would matter for eternity.

I didn’t quit

Because faith kept leading me on

When all looked hopeless I had hope

I knew quitting would mean defeat

So I never set foot on that slip’ry slope.

I didn’t quit

Because I firmly believed

That God is always true to His Word

That He will give me a song in the night

And He ordained ev’rything that occurred.

I didn’t quit

Because I knew down deep in my heart

God has a purpose for ev’ry trial

A reason for the pain and heartache

And trust in Christ made them effectual.

I didn’t quit

For I knew all things come through Christ

Each pain and heartache He designed for me

And with His Word He guided me

And His work of grace was real to me.

I didn’t quit

Because the Spirit of Christ dwells within

And greater is He that is in me

Than he that is in the world

And He is the One the world needs to see.

I didn’t quit

Because I never quit reading God’s Word.

Through pain and sorrow I continued to feed

And I believed ev’ry word I would read

And therefore the enemy did not succeed.

I didn’t quit

For these temporal light afflictions

Will win me a crown on Judgment Day

And that crown I’ll cast at Jesus’ feet

For sustaining me as I continued God’s way."

By James Cagle

(Google images and emphasis added)

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Let’s pray:

   Father, there have been
hard times, and I want to
thank You for guiding me
through each of them.

   May I not forget that You
desire to help me go through each trial.

   Help me to not quit any particular struggle, and to keep
faith in Your ability to oversee the circumstances.

   I want to remain strong and able to learn from them quickly.

   I ask for Your grace, to honor You in everything I do, say, and think. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

Today’s Bible verse: Ps. 5:11 "But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice; let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them that love thy name be joyful in thee."

Today’s quote: Dave Egner – “We may face sorrow, pain, and hardship, but we don’t have to sink into self-pity. The same God who allows our suffering also showers us with His compassion Lam. 3:32. With God’s love lifting us up, we can – if we have to – ‘play’ in pain.”

Some thoughts today: Let the love in you reach out to hurting people. God wants to use you in saving lives, so ask for the courage to do it.

- People need to know they can trust you. Your sharing your story with them helps them connect with you as nothing else can.

- Pray for someone where they are, for God to touch them and bring healing. God wants to use you to minister to someone at the point of their need.

   What to do every day when you wake up…

  (shared by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from the

  sermon series on Ephesians by Richard Sinclair.

  Listen to the messages on  http://www.cfconline.org/

 “Wake up and remind yourself that you are a valued part 
of the Body of Christ, the people of God in the earth today. 
And that you are called to strengthen the body through love by supplying what only you can supply.

Wake up and remind yourself that you are blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places.”

17th- Sunday evening's post:  Rock Bottom

Diana Derringer

19th- Tuesday's post:  #111  Male Leaders and Female Intercessors C. Peter Wagner

21st- Thursday's post:  #112  Go and Do It!

C. Peter Wagner  

{As this is the last post from PRAYER SHIELD, I've 

decided to post several Faith Message drafts from 

various writers through 9/13, when I plan to go on 

vacation, 'til the 22nd of September.

I will then begin Wagner's next book on the 23rd of 

September: WARFARE PRAYER, How to Seek
God's Power and Protection in the Battle to Build
His Kingdom.}

23rd- Saturday's post:  I Need to Hold You

Jo Huddleson

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God?  Jean Oathout continues her listing of various 
ways God speaks to us. The following list completes 
my present list of 22 ways that I've noticed that God
speaks to us...

Someone's caption
of an "angel"
in the sky!

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