#111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors

C. Peter Wagner tells
us: For some, female 
intercessors for male 
leaders works well.

I have mentioned that
I believe two of Paul's
intercessors were Euodia
and Syntyche, both women.

#12  Paul's Prayer Partners: Enodia and Syntyche

Having somewhat less evidence, I nevertheless suspect, as I have mentioned earlier, that Mary, the mother of John Mark, could have been one of Peter's closest intercessors.

To cause physical dependency, the enemy uses lust, inappropriate language and inappropriate contact.

In order to avoid any of this, common sense is needed. For one thing, the pastor mush have a solid marriage as a prerequisite for relating to an I-1 intercessor of the opposite sex.

There must be an open relationship between the spouses as well. The danger of physical indiscretion should be mutually recognized and assiduously avoided.

Cindy Jacobs says, 

   'Do not meet with a member of the opposite sex for prayer without someone else being present.'

I go so far as to say the less one-on-one contact there is between a leader and a member of the opposite sex in general the better.

Having breakfast or lunch or driving from one place to another with a female intercessor is not recommended.

I was concerned, when I developed these rules for myself years ago, that I might be overly old-fashioned. 


But I was heartened 
by my friend Pastor 
Rick Warren of Saddleback 
valley Community church.


He is a megachurch pastor in his 30's who has never been accused of being 'old-fashioned.'

After the Jimmy Swaggart scandal broke, he laid down for his staff  'Saddleback's Ten Commandments.'

  1. Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home.
  2. Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the 
      office.
  3. Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than 
      once without that person's mate.
  4. Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex.
  5. Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or 
      show affection that could be questioned.
  6. Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with 
      the opposite sex in counseling.
  7. Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an 
       attender of the opposite six.
  8. Thou shalt be careful in answering cards and letters 
       from the opposite sex.
  9. Thou shalt make your secretary your protective ally.
10. Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff 
       members.

I have written out Rick Warren's rules in full because I think following them could avoid many of the problems we are having in the ministry today.

I agree with them and I follow them myself. Not only do I want to avoid pitfalls such as physical dependence, I also want to avoid the appearance of evil.

Recognize the Role of the intercessor
Both the leader and the intercessor should recognize that the role of the intercessor is:

• A close personal relationship, but not marriage
• A Strong influence in the life of the leader, but not manipulation or control
• Partnership in ministry, but not ownership of ministry."

#111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors, in the 
series taken from C. Peter Wagner’s book, PRAYER 
SHIELD, How to intercede for pastors, Christian leaders 
and others on the spiritual frontlines. (pgs. 193-195) 
by Regal Books

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Let’s pray:

   Father, I see that I need
to be more mindful of what
I do, and to remember that
it will have effect on others
around me.

   May my actions and word
be all You want them to be.

   Help me to always protect the folks I am with, to not allow any actions offend them, or anyone observing my conduct.

   I choose to maintain clean hands and a pure heart at all times.

   I pray that my behavior pleases You, dear Jesus. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse:  Neh. 5:9 "Also I said, It is not good that ye do: ought ye not to walk in the fear of our God because of the reproach of the heathen our enemies?"

Today’s quote: Bill Crowder – “It is only from God that we can receive the grace of forgiveness when our choices have produced painful regrets. And only in Him do we find the wisdom to make better choices.”

Some thoughts today: Jesus always saw a need as an opportunity. He still does! He sees your need, as well as those around you. You have a privilege of allowing Him to use you to minister to others. As He is spirit, He needs flesh to touch someone...

- God needs ordinary gifts to multiply. What's in your 
hand? Give it to Him. He'll use your "something" to do 
miracles. 1 Kings 17:8-16 (widow with flour and oil, 
struggling to survive, but shared, and God provided!)

- We do the natural, and God does the supernatural. Impact will be beyond your imagination. We look back and see what God has done because of our sacrifices.

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C. Peter Wagner

23rd- Saturday's post:  I Need to Hold You
Jo Huddleson

24th- Sunday's post:  Broken But Beautiful
Cindy Hess Kasper

24th- evening's post:  Too Young or Too Old?
Michael Brooks

A popular post: The Hidden Door of Temptation Dave Branon tells us, "No matter what the temptation, we are all vulnerable. It wasn't the first time it happened in sports, and it certainly won't be the last." 

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#110 Physical Dependency

C. Peter Wagner has said,
"I have said enough about
immorality in the ministry
to give us the impression it
has become one of Satan's
most effective tools in
crippling the church in our
day and age.

It should come as no surprise to suggest that Satan would like to destroy relationships between pastors and intercessors through an inappropriate physical contact.

Most cases of pastoral indiscretion have been sparked in the counseling relationship, contacts with staff members taking second place.

I have not as yet heard of immoral physical relationships between pastors and intercessors, although I do know of one pastor's I1 intercessor running off with the pastor's father.

Inappropriate contact is a constant danger that needs to be understood and avoided. 

Research shows that the great majority of pastors are male and great majority of intercessors are female. This situation is not likely to change in the near future.

To avoid the danger of wrong contacts totally, some pastors such as John Maxwell only relate to male prayer partners.

This is not that either John or his wife, Margaret, have any kind of excessive phobia about John's relating to women in the general course of his pastoral ministry. He relates as well as any.

{John relates His stronger strengths are to teach men, so he teaches them to pray for him and his ministry.}

Furthermore, John has rightly observed that in the average congregation women pray much more than men.

In his congregation he wants as many men praying as women, so he directs his attention toward motivating and training men to pray.

John Maxwell does not teach that all pastors should have the same policy he has, but it goes without saying, many pastors should follow his example. Or they should recruit family members as intercessors."

#110 Physical Dependency,

in the series taken from C. Peter 

Wagner’s book, PRAYER SHIELD, 

How to intercede for pastors,

Christian leaders and others 

on the spiritual  frontlines.
(pgs. 192-193) by Regal Books

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Let’s pray: 

   Father, when I pray for

my pastor(s) and leaders, may

I remember that they are human,

like me, and to make sure I

don't do anything to cause

anyone to speak against my

behavior, or theirs.

   I understand that I'm

responsible to always to be

careful and respectful, and to make sure I am appropriately handling myself in their presence.

   I want to be an excellent prayer partner for my leaders, and I ask that You help me be one who knows what You require.

   In the Name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse: Is. 29:24 "They also that erred in spirit shall come to understanding, and they that murmured shall learn doctrine."

Today’s quote: Dennis Fisher – “Because of Jesus’ death and resurrection, we can now approach God without fear. God’s penalty for sin has been satisfied, and we are invited into God’s presence: 'Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace” Heb. 4:16.

Our thought today: The glory of God is the love of God flowing through us. This love of God isn't stopped by imperfection. Can we love imperfect people in our churches? Remember, we weren't "perfect" when God arrested our thinking, and revealed His love to us!

   What to do every day when you wake up…

  (shared by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from the

  sermon series on Ephesians by Richard Sinclair.

  Listen to the messages on  http://www.cfconline.org/

 “Wake up and remind yourself that His intended purpose was to adopt you as His own in Jesus Christ!

Wake up and remind yourself that you have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”

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Debbie McEwen

17th- Sunday's post:  I Didn't Quit! 

James Cagle

17th- evening's post:  Rock Bottom

Diana Derringer

19th- Tuesday's post:  #111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors  C. Peter Wagner {I'll have only one more 

post from his book, PRAYER SHIELD}

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FREE LIVING   Dave 

Branon  shares with us, 

"Does it bother you to 

see how much attention 

is paid in today’s culture 

to people who stand for 

all the wrong things? 

Perhaps it is entertainment stars who get the headlines 

while espousing immoral philosophies in their music, 

movies, or programs." 

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My Cooking Will Be Grand

My Cooking Will Be Grand

Debbie McEwen 

Will we eat in heaven?

I'd like to think we might

I'd love to share a meal

With everyone in sight.

I'd cook my favorite dishes

And fix them oh so well

To please all of my family

And everyone else as well.

Heaven's such a perfect place

With joyful prayers and song

That I would like to add

Happy fuel for everyone.

I would humbly offer

My cooking to my God

I'd like to think if I do my best

My efforts He would laud.

I've never been a perfect cook

Or perfect anything

But I believe that God is pleased

When we do our best for Him.

So I guess that I must practice

To be the best I can

So when I go to heaven

My cooking will be grand.

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Let’s pray:

   Father, I ask that You guide my efforts to serve You and others by with my talents.
   The abilities come from You, and I'll do my best to work with them for the Kingdom.
   We know You have good plans for us, and we thank You for them.
   Have Your way in my life, Lord. Help me be sensitive to what You're showing me to do for others.
   I'll look to Your enablement in my being a blessing. In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen.

Today’s Bible verse: Ps. 32:8 "I Will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.."

Today’s quote:  Our Daily Bread: “Lord, help me remember that there are no small places or small people. All are precious in Your sight. May I see the value of my work and cherish it as You do. Anyone doing God’s work in God’s way is important in His sight." 7/20/14

Some thoughts today: Learn your lessons well, so you can help others in the things of God.

- God approves of you! He has affirmed you. He is pleased in what you've done. Do you have many choices to chose from? God will help you, if you'll let Him.

          What to do every day when you wake up…

          by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from the

  sermon series on Ephesians by Richard Sinclair.

  Listen to the messages on  http://www.cfconline.org/

 “Wake up and remind yourself that you have a part to play in the unfolding plan of God. That you are called to serve Him and to impact the lives of people around you through prayer, giving, serving, and sowing. And that nothing and no one can stop you from walking out His kingdom will for your life.
   Wake up and remind yourself that your labor in the Lord matters – that He sees your love, your sacrifice, and your patience toward all men, and especially toward the saints, and that He will not forget your work and labor of love.”

17th- Sunday’s post:  I Didn't Quit!
James Cagle

17th- evening's post:  Rock Bottom
Diana Derringer

19th- Tuesday's post:  #111  Male Leaders and Female Intercessors C. Peter Wagner

21st- Thursday's post:  #112  Go and Do It!
C. Peter Wagner  (last message from PRAYER SHIELD)

A popular post:  Becoming More Fruitful Gwen Smith shares with us, "On a family visit to the beach, our room had a balcony that overlooked the swimming pool. 

I sat on the balcony one morning and watched as a maintenance man for the resort approached a palm tree and pulled a brown, life-less branch from under the green leaves. 

Oddly, before he pulled the dead branch, I hadn’t even noticed it was there. After he pulled it, however, I noticed that the palm tree looked fresh and vibrant. Healthy. The pruning made such a difference!"

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Rock Bottom

Diana Derringer shares with us some challenging thoughts:

"Have you ever hit rock bottom, when you have 

gone as low as you can go?

Rock bottom may mean you have lost any or all

of the following:

•    Money
•    Home
•    Job
•    Friends
•    Family
•    Self-respect
•    Energy
•    Desire to live

The list could go on and on.

Our suffering may be no fault of our own. However, 

we often hit rock bottom because of poor choices. 

In addition, we may have to hit the bottom before 
we see the need to change.

At the bottom, we realize we can’t keep making the
same mistakes.

 

Like hiking to 

the bottom of 

Bryce Canyon, 

going down is 

easier than 

going up. 

Yet, in order to survive, we must get out. So one step at a time, we slowly make our way to the top.

Once we make it, we look back and understand how far 

we have come.

At the same time, poor choices may continue to tempt us. 

When that happens, how do we keep from hitting rock
bottom again?

-Remember where we were and where we want to be.
-Don’t go places that will tempt us.
-Don’t spend time with people who will tempt us.
-Find support from people who have also come up from 

  the bottom.

-Base our lives on a foundation that is solid as a rock.

“The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; 

my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge” 

(Psalm 18:2 NIV).

Rock Bottom By Diana Derringer on Aug 04, 2014 08:00 pm Subscribe now and receive my weekly posts by email or RSS. The post Rock Bottom appeared first on Diana Derringer. Diana Derringer http://dianaderringer.com https://twitter.com/DianaDerringer http://linkedin.com/in/dianaderringer https://www.facebook.com/dianaderringerwriter (Google images added) Let’s pray:    Father, there are times we are in desperate need, so help us make up our minds now, to come to You for help.    You are our rock, fortress, and our deliverer.    Help us remember what Diana's  advice is about not hitting bottom again.    I want to please You and to keep my faith strong, so ask for Your help to stay away from temptations, which seem too strong for me.    May I begin to make better choices each day.    I ask this in the Name of Jesus, Amen. Today’s Bible verse: Job 42:12a "So the LORD blessed the latter end of Job, more than his beginning." Today’s quote: Our Daily Bread – “Even strong trials cannot blow down a person who is rooted in God.” Col. 2:7 Some thoughts today: Hope is for the future,  but faith is for now. - When God finds someone who'll obey His Word — He moves!    What to do every day when you wake up…   (shared by Danica Sinclair Dunphey, —from          the sermon series on Ephesians by     Richard Sinclair. Listen to the messages          on http://www.cfconline.org/                   “Wake up and remind yourself that this world is passing away, along with everything that seems so appealing; but that he who does the will of God abides forever. Wake up and remind yourself that apart from Jesus Christ you can do nothing; but in Jesus Christ you can do all things.” Wake up and remind yourself that you will not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God. And that your meat is to do the will of God.” (That's all of the notes from Danica, folks...Be sure to listen to some of the messages!) 19th- Tuesday's post:  #111 Male Leaders and Female Intercessors C. Peter Wagner 21st- Thursday's post:  #112  Go and Do It C. Peter Wagner  (Last Post from PRAYER SHIELD) 23rd- Saturday's post:  I Need to Hold You Jo Huddleson 24th- Sunday's post:  Broken But Beautiful Cindy Hess Kasper A popular post: How to Get a New Heart  Dave Branon shares with us: “A friend who is a heart transplant cardiologist has an appreciation of Ezekiel 36:26 that not many of us can understand.  Mike manages the pre-operation and post-operation care for heart-transplant patients. He’s often in the operating room as surgeons remove diseased, discolored hearts and replace them with vibrant, pink ‘new’ donor hearts." jowildflowers@gmail.com Samples of Jean's crafts http://twitter.com/jeanoathout http://facebook.com/jean.oathout AuthorsDen.com Where authors and readers come together! Granny's Guide to Marriage in Verse   Kindle $2.99  Bridal Shower Devotional: Bridal Wisdom for Women Granny's Guide to Marriage in Verse  My book in paperback $7.95 (Check out the Reviews on the Kindle page of my book) Wisdom for Brides (Christian Marriage, Counseling, & Help) (Volume 1)